I have not done any snooping and don't intend to. I've seen items plainly visible in her overnight bag that she brings to her "girlfriend's" house that are more than enough proof. Also, she is clearly in limerence and is obsessed with running out of the house the minute I get home to go to her "new life." Zero physical contact or affection between us. This will all be dealt with should any kind of R momentum happen, which is unlikely at this point.
I do want to get the finances done ASAP (we are discussing on Thursday), and we have already agreed on 50/50 physical/legal custody. I will file paperwork myself if she drags her feet, though I would prefer she do the heavy lifting. Time will tell.
