Thanks LH19 We just had a huge blow out via whatsapp Started with her offloading about how difficult the kids had been today and how she had been struggling while away on holiday with them. I replied I knew it must be hard.
She then replied that she felt like she was messaging a call centre and wouldn't offload to me again.
I said it was ok, they are our kids.
Then came a massive offload from her. How sad she was losing her husband and best friend while seeing couples on holiday. How she felt cheated robbed and angry How she no longer loved or trusted me and now she had nothing How she had to rebuild while so vulnerable How I was just going out and making new friends (This was weird as I went out 1 night this week with my one friend who came Down for the weekend to offer support) How I could just change now and how cheated she felt that I hadn't done it while together. How everyone thinks "wow what a great guy" Then a "F U!"
How because of my mental health I'm the victim with loads of support and she has nothing ( I have just my mental health nurse at the moment, zero social contacts locally she has a huge extended group of friends who she speaks to and sees daily) How I had lied about changes last time we seperated just to get back and abuse her How I have been Gaslighting her.
Then she changed tact Asked when I could pack my belongings. When I got keys for new flat That she didn't want to be around when I packed and just wanted her own life. Then could I stay at the house this weekend to look after kids as her friend is coming down and she would like to go out!
