Is this something you wanted to do or was it just to please him and show him how much you want things to work out?
H was looking to move out the day after BD, but he has little income. He was going to rent a place an hour away (the closest he could somewhat afford) that cost more than his entire monthly income—he was going to do work for the landlord to make up the difference, and planned to commute to watch the kids every day. He’s on VA disability for his PTSD and gets less than $1000/month.
Since I need him to still watch the kids, I told him I would move out rather than have him living so far away. I know he would have moved even if it made no financial sense for him to do so. I have looked into daycare options, but finding a place with openings has been impossible.
I wanted to add that the main reason H was initially so eager to move out is because he believed that we were going to have a really ugly split. Per our discussion during BD, he wasn't expecting me to cooperate with this at all--I think this goes back to his belief that I am controlling. Since BD, we've written up a pretty reasonable separation agreement, and he's signed off on everything.
As a result, his resentment seems to have faded, and he is letting his guard down a bit. It's really weird. During the week following BD, he behaved so indifferently towards me that I was certain he really did not love me and that there was nothing left of our relationship to salvage. However, based on our interactions as the weeks have passed, I've grown pretty confident that he actually does have feelings for me. I still don't think he's in love with me, but he's definitely expressing fondness towards me.
