I am so sorry to come here today and read that a divorce may be on the horizon. She may waffle for many months in getting the divorce paperwork on track. As long as your finances are okay and you can live w/her "out there", then allow her to do the heavy, difficult work of filing.
She really does not know why she feels that the relationship can't work. Notice the things she brought up. Nothing truly of essence to warrant a divorce. Right now, she's not happy w/the world, you, the relationship and most importantly, herself. She will continue to float around the earth for many, many months and will do some rather odd things, but it's called "going back in time for that one more time/redo" to see if she's missed something. Truthfully, it's to figure out why things happened the way that they did back then.
Yes, you are feeling a bit of a relief, but it will be short lived as divorce takes its toll on all. You will discover that she may drag her feet and find all sorts of excuses not to get things done.
Bottom line, protect yourself, your assets and your children as much as you can. Your journey is not over...
Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
