H moved out end of June 03 & came back right after Easter this year. Most of the time we have been in contact. Mainly because we work at same company (different locations) & he left me w/ all the sh** to deal with when he left - finances, collection calls for things he owed, etc. We went thru ups & downs. Everytime he said it was over & he was filing for divorce, he always threw something in about he still loves me & hopes it can work. That of course kept me on the line but I really believe that at those moments, he does mean it.
Why he left - he was unhappy, ILYBNILWY anymore, felt I was controlling, we were too different & argue, etc. I had started questioning him about OW & he said I was jealous & imagining things. I admit I am insecure but he didn't really give me reasons not to be.
He has yet to admit that there was OW but I know there was. He claims nothing happened w/ her until he moved out but it was defintley an EA if not PA. He still does not own up to either. Kind of complicated because she is mother of 2 kids he never knew he had until last year. The whole thing kind of doesn't make sense to me (about kids being his) but he says they are. They are 14 & 16 & he is 30. OW is 40 so they were together when he was 14? He lived w/ them when he moved out & then went to live w/ a male freind & then back w/ her & kids. Then here - supposedly because after having his freedom he realized he wanted to be w/ me. I think he always wants what he doesn't have at the time...
So, that is it in a nutshell. Not sure how to handle this week. Things had really benn going well & then he just snapped. I backslid on DBing as mentioned but I also feel that I have made alot of positive changes which he even admits to noticing. He had just been talking about how great we were doing & about plans for the summer & then decided he wants a divorce the next day.
