I’m sorry MC did not work out better. Yes, W simply will not, or more accurately cannot, work on the M currently.
How did the decision to proceed to D happen?
It is usually recommended to let your spouse do the heavy lifting to obtain a divorce. From what I recall you were not wanting one; give it a few days before you do anything actually towards that end. Also, a lot of MLCers change their minds, constantly. W may not want a D tomorrow, and then back again, and so on. Follow her actions not her words.
It is perfectly normal to feel relief at the thought of exiting limbo. Please be careful - a feeling does not your truth make. Your feelings can and will change, ensure you are following something bigger and deeper.
This development is not all that unforeseen, and doesn’t really affect your path that much. Focus on you and keep moving forward.
Post whatever you like. Ask whatever you like. We are here to help and support you.
Stay strong.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
