In my opinion, ultimately K probably shouldn't be telling anyone how to use their phone.
Hi overrn, agreed, she shouldn't tell her partner what to do. She CAN set boundaries on what she accepts. Months ago, I felt disrespected when my partner went into "phone mode" for 15min on a date.
Originally Posted by ovrrnbw
I think a better way of stating it would be to simply leave the room or house when phone use is excessive.
The first time I tried that, she didn't know why I left, where I went, or when I'd return. LOL! I've made some common-sense refinements you probably do or would do too: (1) I tolerate it for a bit, (2) I call attention to it ("Something up?"), then (3) I let them know I'm moving on while they deal with their important "phone" business, optionally inviting them to move on too. I find this a good model for any "very distracted" behavior while I've set aside 1:1 time for someone. It respects, too, what they're doing may be important.
