What are you trying to accomplish by calling her out on her lies and affairs?
Don't know... probably why I have not done it yet...
Part of it is my nature to confront BS, but reading DB, seems like not the right thing. Part of me wants to just signal that I'm not stupid, and that she can't expect to come talk or move back in, and get away with it, so she really needs to put in the work to clean her sh*t up rather than lie about it, and making things worse.
Maybe there's a more positive phrasing of it I'll go re-read the DB chapters.