There are so many ups & downs on this ride. H just keeps changing his mind every day it seems. I really thought that he wanted this when he came home last month. It was his decision, he said all the right things.
Yesterday was an okay day. We hung out, ML (he initiated) etc until he was supposed to go out with some friends. I was upset that I wasn't invited but tried to keep it to myself. He didn't feel good this morning & we got in to it a little over him drinking & driving. He of course got defensive but I had a hard time keeping my mouth shut & DBing thru that. He doesn't understand that if he gets a DUI or worse, that will affect me & my life too. The funny thing is he hasn't been drinking at all the last few months. He never has much anyway but knows that his dad is an alcoholic so he doesn't want to get in to that routine. The other issue was that he took his wedding ring of at some point when he was out last night. I guess that's not supposed to be a big deal. ??
So everything kind of blew up this morning. Partially my fault but I get frustrated that I feel like i can never talk about my feelings with him. He called awhile ago & said that we are getting divorced & he doesn't want me in his life. Claims he is calling a lawyer tomorrow. I just don't understand how he can go from talking aobut how good things are going between us to deciding that he is not happy & doesn't want to be married (for the one millionth time I think...)in less than 24 hours. I stopped by his parents & they said he gets mad & says things to make me mad. I know that - he certainly doesn't know how to deal with his emotions at all. But, he just called from where he is working on his truck & said that he found a new place to live & he is going thru with it this time.
What do I do now? I feel so stupid for thinking he wanted it to work this time. he said all the right things before he moved back in - about how he knows marriages have ups & downs, he wanted to go counseling, alot of our problems were because of his attitude etc. Whenever I would say that things are my fault to, he would say "yes, but you have to admit that 95% of it has to do with my attitude." Now he throws it in my face that I don't take any responsibility for our problems.
I could scream right now . I don't know that there is any hope if he moves out again... I know other people on here have had spouse try to come home & leave again. Any advice? Did they start divorce & then stop again??
(he initiated) etc until he was supposed to go out with some friends. I was upset that I wasn't invited but tried to keep it to myself. He didn't feel good this morning & we got in to it a little over him drinking & driving. He of course got defensive but I had a hard time keeping my mouth shut & DBing thru that. He doesn't understand that if he gets a DUI or worse, that will affect me & my life too. The funny thing is he hasn't been drinking at all the last few months. He never has much anyway but knows that his dad is an alcoholic so he doesn't want to get in to that routine. The other issue was that he took his wedding ring of at some point when he was out last night. I guess that's not supposed to be a big deal. ??
. I don't know that there is any hope if he moves out again... 
I know other people on here have had spouse try to come home & leave again. Any advice? Did they start divorce & then stop again??
