K,

someone that closer to your W is probably not someone you want to confide in, IMO. It's likely that if you're speaking with "her friends" that those words will make their way to your W.

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I woke up and asked what she was doing here (at my house).
Good! What stopped you from taking action to support this sentiment? I was in a similar situation. It's very tough. Undoubtedly she is trying to share a bed with 2 people. I struggled immensely with how to deal with this, and I know it's hard. Eventually I found the courage to say "You just were in someone else's bed last night and now you're in bed with me? Gross". Just remember that the only time we can be brave is when we are scared. But like I told you, you are so much better than how you feel at the moment!

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Saturday morning was pretty great, almost felt normal. We got up, she made me coffee, played some video games and recovered. Saturday night we had plans to watch our favorite football team GO VOLS.


This is confusing, and I want to clarify if you can help me. She lives with OW, right? But sometimes she comes and stays the night and plays happy wife with you, right? Coffee, friends, socializing, alone time, bedroom time?

The fact that she still wants you in a capacity is good for your sitch. But if she's playing both sides of the fence, well does that hurt you? Could you think of a boundary that would protect that? I think the boundary will be difficult and require you to be brave.


H 34
W 29
BD 3/12/18
Divorce Busted Spring 19

It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.