I could have written this! I'm sorry you're in that place. I know how it feels to be there.
Quote: Anyway, last night he started saying that he is not happy being back here, he loves me but is never going to be husband material for anyone, he only came back to make me happy & because I convinced him he was wrong to leave, made him feel guilty, etc. I asked why he has been acting lovey dovey, affectionate, happy. He said he is just trying to make the best of it. Doesn't like having to be responsible to me, etc. Same old story as before.
My H did this too-- more than once. My advice would be to give Sage's advice a try.
I would not advise asking him to leave. I DID ask my H to leave after what you describe above and then catching him in a lie. While initially, it made it sit up and take notice of what he was doing-- it's also made it harder for him to try again, I think. Like the stakes got higher or something.
Just something to consider.
Try to also keep seeing things from his perspective as well as yours-- you sound like you are doing a good job at that so far-- and see if that helps you DB some more.
