Sage, I find it interesting that your H said he was "done" at 3 months and 6 months. What made your H stick it out?
My H came home for 3 months last yr. then left and then came home for 3 months this yr. and then left. This yr. H kept asking me what he should do before he moved out. I told him that it was up to him. I told him that I would prefer to work things out but it was up to him. Well, he has been gone for 1 month now.
slt, it's hard because you always 2nd guess yourself if H ends up deciding to leave, at least I do.
I think the best thing you can do is to take all pressure off of him. What do you think H wants in regards to leaving? More independance and freedom? I gave H that and it didn't keep him home.
What helps my sitch is when I back off, get a life, act indifferent, don't ask questions, basically act like I am the WAS.
The only thing I would have changed in my sitch is telling H that it was fine if he left but that I could not promise that I would still be around if he had a change of heart. I think that is what James Dobson calls "tough love."
