Boy you sure are good at manipulating words and using them to allow you to pursue. You take MWDs words of "do what works" to indicate that you need to do what best for your situation. I wish I knew what you perceive as working in your situation?
Absolutely stick to your plan of no pursuit, NC and removing yourself completely out of the equation. I have a feeling you will know soon enough know where she stands.
LH, why do I get the feeling that you’re just waiting for my W to file so that you can say “I told you so.” It’s like you can’t wait to say “if you had only listened to our advice, maybe your sitch would have turned out differently.” On several occasions, you have told me that I’m going to regret not doing this or that. Sure, in hindsight I wish I would have kicked her out in December after discovering the first PA. I was not strong enough nor knew how these sitches typically play out back then. It [censored], I joined the board in March and my chances were extremely slim, yet I still couldn’t bring myself to let her go.
The fact is many LBS come here and are completely unprepared to handle what their life has become. Often times, we don’t have the courage or the confidence to do what is counter-intuitive. I know the vets give advice based on what they’ve seen work in the past in success stories and the LBS saving themselves. I do appreciate the advice.
Not all vets agree on the proper course of action. As such, I need to decipher and pick and choose what to implement and when. Ultimately, it’s my life and I have to live with my choices. I can’t change the past or control my WW. I do my best to move forward while standing for my MR.
Me:41 W:39 S:9 D:6 T:20 M:16 PA:8/22/18, BD:11/6/18 PA discovery & IHS:12/3/18, W moves:4/2/19 R’ville:9/27/19, I give D docs:3/1/20 W home:4/5/20 (due to CV-19), W NC w/OM:4/13/20 6/1/20
