Am I Wasting my TIme?????

[sage]

Do I tell him to go or take the opportunity to truely DR & hopefully he will want to be here? I feel kind of pathetic wanting him to stay but I think that deep down there is more there than he realizes.

My two cents is for you to NOT tell him to go but to DB your, well, butt off. At the 3 month mark and the 6 month mark h told me that he thought he was "done" -- much in the same way that our first bomb dropping had gone -- slightly different that your sitch but still telling nonetheless.

I could go on & on w/ details & our conversation last night but figured I would start here. I will try to link my old threads next.

Getting some details out there seems like a good next step. Maybe we can help identify the things that are "squeezing" him.

Also...you identify ( ) that you yourself are feeling YOUR pressure .... a good place to start for both of you.

I'm sure it was hard to hear...I always like to acknowledge, though, that your h told you how he was feeling. A good thing in my book.

Sage