Journal -

There has been no communication since the last message from W. As we are getting close to the end of the year, I realize that the apartment Iīve sorted for her is not for that much longer. So I have a question to the vets here -

Just to remind everyone of my sitch - I have a prenup which means W gets nothing once we are divorced. However, I canīt protect the apartment with a prenup due to local laws. They will give it to whoever needs it the most. Since I make a lot more money than her, they would say that I can afford to buy a new one instead of keeping this. So I wrote a separate agreement before we got married stating that if she doesnīt claim this apartment, I will give her approx 15.000 USD cash.

The day she moved out I told her I would wire her the money in a few days to which she said she doesnīt want them yet, she is worried she might spend them(wise decision, I believe she would have spent them too). So I only wired her a small amount so she can buy basic things for the new apartment. As for the apartment itself, it costs me about the same, around 15.000 USD which wasnīt in the agreement that I would pay but I did it anyway just to get rid of her. She has it until February 29. Last week she messaged me and asked if she could get another small amount from the divorce money I owe her to which I said yes, but I need her to legally change her address with the tax office. Once she has done that, she can no longer claim the apartment I live in now. She questioned it at first, asking if she shouldnīt wait until end of February but I told her I canīt wire any more money until she has done that. A day later I got confirmation that she has changed her address.

This means she can no longer claim the apartment or demand to move back in. However, I know itīs IMPOSSIBLE to find a rental apartment in our city. She doesnīt have the money to buy one either. So I have a feeling she will be reaching out when itīs getting closer. What would the recommendation be? I donīt know what she will do. She has two friends she knows well enough but they live with their boyfriends so she canīt move in there. Her only option is to find a guy to move in with and that is not something she would want. Not in such short time.

Obviously I canīt have her move back in here but if it comes to the point where she has absolutely nowhere else to go, Iīm not sure I can be cold enough to let her end up on the street. What would you do?


Me: 38
Stbxw: 35
No kids
Mini bd: February 6, 2019
ONS confirmed Sept 7, 2019
Told her to move out: September 8, 2019
W moved out: September 28, 2019
Divorce filed by me: September 23, 2019