Most everyone I speak to about this tells me "S, you've got needs too, you've been as understanding as one could possibly be about this scenario, it's not unreasonable to ask for more clarity"
If they're suggesting >>you've been as understanding as one could possibly be<<, that implies you should >>stop being understanding<< if she respond in an unclear way. What hard action(s) are they actually suggesting? Are you willing to follow-through with those actions?
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I think if her answer was that she still needed more time and space, I'd understand and respect that. If the answer was that she's not in this, and she's not willing to work - would I pull the trigger? I don't know.
So, you plan to respond with more "being understanding". You have not reached your personal limit. Did you inform "most everyone" that you would just continue "being understanding" after seeking reassurance?
I don't have iron insides. It's easier to pose tough questions than to answer them.
