"I am closer to you now than I was before. The distance between us has not disrupted how deeply I feel for you. I guess I am at a point where having you physically close to me is not my greatest desire but to watch you smile and grow is. I know that we can make each other smile without saying a word but you have your own path to follow and I am sure someday, our paths will meet and we will be together chasing our dream."
Magic Decoder: She enjoys and wants to keep her relationship with you as-is, she's busy with OW just now, but someday in the future she will return (maybe when OW gets boring, too ill, passes on, etc.) Your partner is good with words, and I can see how that could be gratifying and hard to leave.
Originally Posted by "Caligirl"
But you have to 180 because you are just sitting waiting for her to change her mind. She has nothing to change her mind about your still there whenever she wants .
I think Caligirl is right! If she enjoys the perks she gets from both of you--she says she does--why should she drop either of you? You have to decide if you can accept being one of her lovers OR require a monogamous relationship. If you stop accepting her behavior, you have a chance of winning her back or moving on. As-is it seems you are hoping for the day she and OW1 fizzle out AND she doesn't seek an OW2 or OW3 to fill the void left behind from enjoying having multiple partners at the same time.
