Thanks for the input. I think if her answer was that she still needed more time and space, I'd understand and respect that. If the answer was that she's not in this, and she's not willing to work - would I pull the trigger? I don't know.
I hate giving advice here - it seems like based on your answer I don't think asking for clarity is necessarily going to help you right now.
Originally Posted by SteveS
Some of you who made it to the other side of this must have iron for insides because this is just insanely brutal. I don't know how anyone does it.
I am also in awe of some of the people here. I've seen enough of a glimpse of the other side to have faith I can get there.
We don't have iron for insides. This stuff hurts. It hurts like he**. It is traumatizing.
What has really helped me is to think about what I would want my W to work on. And I revisit it constantly when I am in doubt. I think... "This relationship could never really work if she did not at least start to address XYZ, and at least be willing to have a conversation about it." I have much more resolve feeling like it's not just me waiting for her to jump back into my arms. Not sure that helps, but it does flip my mindset a little bit.
Take care, SteveS - it's a marathon, we all have good days and bad days.