... My ex was definitely a MNG. He would say whatever to appease me but then do the opposite because that is what he really wanted to do. Which infuriated me more then if he would have just stuck up for himself, now he lied to me. He wasn't the man and I the woman, if that makes sense. I am also super insecure, I am working on this. I need a lot of words of affirmation and quality time and he didn't give me that. So it wasn't loss of interest, it was that we went right back to old ways and that didn't work. I also didn't change myself at all. Someone should have told me to be less bossy and let him feel like a man. 😁
When all this happened I had no guidance. I should have changed myself too and we both should have put in more effort to make the next go-around different. I expected that because I left HIM, I should go back and he be the perfect man for me. That's why DB makes so much sense to me now. ...
Thanks for the reply, and your explanation makes sense. Sounds like you needed there to be more of the masculine vs feminine roles / dynamics for attraction, and neither of you recognized or worked on it to make that happen.
I appreciate that you are honest enough in hindsight to acknowledge that you didn't put in the necessary effort to make the necessary changes either.
I'm starting to realize that with all the equal opportunity, etc... that a lot of women still desire a strong man to be the masculine figure in the relationship.
