Again, I am no DB expert, just speaking from a woman's perspective here. I am struggling to understand why she would go back to him. I have a couple of thoughts, one being she has self-esteem difficulties and is clinging to him and two she is afraid to lose him for whatever reason and again is clinging to him. Another thought, and this sounds bad, he may still seem better than your marriage to her. She knows what her married life looks like. That's where I would DB and make your life full and different. He honestly sounds awful and I can't imagine this is going to be long lasting at all.
MMM, I appreciate your POV. In the initial posts on my sitch I mentioned that my W had become obsessed with reading romance novels a couple years before leading up to BD. Also, about 2 weeks before BD she actually verbalized that to me for the first time in that she wanted a different sexual experience. Think 50 Shades stuff.
Could it be that the APs are playing that role and she is so into it that she’ll take any form of abuse to keep it alive and get her next fix?
Me:41 W:39 S:9 D:6 T:20 M:16 PA:8/22/18, BD:11/6/18 PA discovery & IHS:12/3/18, W moves:4/2/19 R’ville:9/27/19, I give D docs:3/1/20 W home:4/5/20 (due to CV-19), W NC w/OM:4/13/20 6/1/20
