So, as a woman, why would she want to go back to him? Are the in-love feelings that strong?
I've been very dim with her over the past week or so. Maybe she needs to panic. She's had it good this whole time. Throwing me crumbs here and there to string me along. Telling and showing her that I'm done would add to her confusion. I need to decide if that is what I really want and when enough is enough.
Again, I am no DB expert, just speaking from a woman's perspective here. I am struggling to understand why she would go back to him. I have a couple of thoughts, one being she has self-esteem difficulties and is clinging to him and two she is afraid to lose him for whatever reason and again is clinging to him. Another thought, and this sounds bad, he may still seem better than your marriage to her. She knows what her married life looks like. That's where I would DB and make your life full and different. He honestly sounds awful and I can't imagine this is going to be long lasting at all.
I had a 6 year relationship to my oldest son's father. I left him for a slew of reasons and I knew I could find someone else that made me happier. After I left, he became happy. He got a fresh look, started doing more things with his friends, was always nice and cordial to me. Guess what? I wanted him back. We ended up back together, bought a house... He reverted back to his old ways and we ended up splitting for good. When we did split for good, he begged and pleaded for over a year, said he would do anything to get back together. Sometimes I would send me a text or agree to dinner or something but I was already dating other people. I would save him for a night I was bored or needed some attention.
The moral of the story is I didn't want someone else to get this "catch" of a man originally. If I knew I could have him back at any given moment he would have seemed less valuable to me and he did the second time around. He was my first and I truly wanted to spend the rest of my life with him until I realized I didn't love my life with him and thought I would be happier with someone else. I'm here so obviously that hasn't happened yet. 😁 Although we never married and we were only together for 6 years, I am sure there are similarities to married life.
