... Been struggling with the instinct to be clingy and needy....
It is OK to be needy (at times). Just don’t be needy all the time. Know when it is OK.
Everything is not black or white. The key is knowing when to be black or white, or some level of grey.
Most of us come here knowing only one way of behaving (in certain areas). Being only one shade of grey gets us in trouble.
One of my biggest frustrations is how we all us broad categories. In this case, clingy and needy, encompasses a broad range. If you can be more specific, that helps a lot.
For example, if I said I went out last night and GAL. Not much info communicated, but if I said "I was out last night for 3 hours listening to live music, played 6 games of pool, met three new people bla bla bla", you have better understanding of what I did.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
