Dbing is for you. It is to help you find a way to carry on and live your life to the fullest. DBing is a technique that you can use in your day-to-day life. I would continue as you have been...leave her alone as much as possible, communicate w/her if it is an emergency or about the children...other than that...she's gone to the moon and isn't available for much contact, if any.
Keep the focus on you and your family. Watch the finances, etc., and find plenty of things to do, things that you enjoy doing will help greatly.
Above all else, dig deeper for patience and remember...you didn't break her, therefore, you can't fix her.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
