Persistant Endurance (Part 7)

[curtis7]

I am going to offer you some advice and it is up to you as to whether you want to listen or not. This latest stuff is way too fresh in your mind. Give yourself a few days and allow that pain/hurt to wash over you and then release it. If, after a couple of days, you still feel the way that you do, then you will need to make some tough decisions. Sit down, make a list of pros and cons and then go from there.

job, thanks for the advice, I will follow it. It's been a week, so not too fresh in my mind. I've been strongly feeling it's time to move forward on my own each day for the past 2 weeks. I will give it a little more time. Let me give the pros and cons some thought.

Try to remember that actions speak louder than words. I've taken the liberty to change the emails you plan to send. If you do send one...do just one and leave it at that and then give her the time and space to respond back.

"I have come to the realization that you do not want to work on the marriage. This situation isn’t working for me anymore. I respect myself enough to let you go and move forward with my life."

I would keep the asset list on hand, but not give it to her unless she's ready to move forward with a divorce. Keep your cards close to the vest for now. You want to keep things simple, but straight forward at this time.

I didn't think the words would hold much weight. That is why I planned to deliver the asset list as an action along with the words. When I do that, it is not to draw her back or get her to change her mind. It is because I am done and ready to move forward. I am okay with either outcome as long as the status quo ends.

Enjoy the party this evening.

Thanks! The party was fun. The kids and I both had a blast. Only thought about W a few times. It was when I was sitting around with other couples. Just some moments of sadness watching other couples together and knowing I don't have that gift right now. I had the same feeling Friday night when I took the kids out to dinner after S8's baseball game. Went with 3 other "intact" families. It's a bit disheartening being alone, seeing the dynamic of other couples, and wondering when I will have that again. That's the choice I made by being "deliberately not divorced."