Ok.thanks guys. This is a bit of a biggy for me today. I have been given a diagnosis of avoident personality disorder with fear of intimacy and depression on top. In some ways I feel relief that I know what I'm working with and a clearer picture of what needs to change and a starting point for how to go about this.
Looking for thoughts and advice as to whether this is something I should share with my wife. On the one hand it might reinforce the idea that I am not desirable and weak or broken ( not the person you would want a relationship with) and on the other it may make sense of the issues in our relationship and combat her narrative that I was withholding affection in order to control and abuse her.
Kinda stuck here as to whether it would help her understand?or if it's the right thing to do.
