My patience has worn thin, and I cannot ignore the reality that this is happening again. She has even called me out on what you describe, waiting for her to call the shots and wait for her cue. But it is tricky in this case because she is the one who is initiating all of this. How can I take the lead? It does go against the DB principle of putting the focus on yourself and not the sitch. So what do you recommend exactly? How do I call the shots?
I thought I tried to address this subject last year. I don't know if it is me or you, but one of us is confused. You can't lead b/c it goes goes against the DB principle of focusing on yourself?
Well, you can throw out what I said in my last post, as well as this one.....if you don't agree with what I recommended. Just tell me, so I don't spend a lot of time with something you know you aren't going to do. ...
Do we think MWD's DB principal works equally as effective for LBH vs LBW? For LBH, doing nothing seems a bit passive, which may come off as not alpha / masculine / confident / lead? To be clear, I'm not suggesting anything contrary to DB, just trying to put together the different pieces of the puzzle
Having done some research, it does seem that WW are the toughest, and generally harder to turnaround than WH because WW are more emotionally invested by the time they are in an affair.
With that said, I have seen NC, time and space turn around the mindset of a WW... at least temporarily, even if it's false positive. So I know it DB works to take it from very negative to zero. It's hard to see when the inflection point will be to take it into positive territory.
