Divorce because I betrayed her trust - THREAD 4

[DaB35]

One thing I'd like to ask - in this case, my friend I've mentioned a few posts above is good friends with W and they're not going to stop being friends because of the D. He's said categorically he is not taking sides and will remain friends with both of us.

However, am I right in thinking that when I see him to catch-up and the topic comes up, I should NOT ask him, "What has she said about me?", or "Has she said/done this?" and instead maybe stick to a simple "How is she?" and possibly validate if appropriate?