OK good to hear AS, thank you. I feel better reading what you've said in clarifying things!
I will therefore continue to GAL and stay in my own happy place.
I have to remind myself that as she's still apparently angry, she needs time and yet more time. I will work on myself still and be AMOAFWL - I feel I have elements of that already. Worrying much less about what she's saying to her family/friends about me these days. I suppose that's a good sign.
I don't know what will happen in the next few months but whatever does happen, I'd like to think I'll be prepared, calm and happy.
Me - 36, W - 32 No kids T - 8 yr, M - 3 yr Discovery - 14 May 2019 S - 25 May 2019 & D bomb - 29 July 2019 D & House sale final - Feb 2020