I felt guilty; whilst I'm GALing and 180ing and smashing IC, I wanted to find her and make her feel better and help her out.
I absolutely get where you are coming from, I remember having those feelings too. But here's the thing- she doesn't want your help. What she wants more than anything else is "not you". She doesn't want to see you, chat with you, get help from you, be on the same planet as you. That can and will change with time, but for right now that's where she's at and you need to respect that. So no need to feel guilty, you not helping her is actually exactly what she wants right now.
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I felt somewhat indifferent; I thought "it's her decision to do this, not mine. She has to live with that decision. I wanted to R and do MC. Only she wanted D."
Yup.
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I felt worried; is he going to tell her "yeah he's absolutely fine and he seems totally over you." ?
That is exactly what you want to portray to her. To get her back you first have to let her go. She'll never learn to miss you as long as she knows you're hanging on as Plan B.
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I need to text her tomorrow to turn the alarm off as I have to collect stuff from the garage. Do I need to ask her how she's doing at all - would that be considered pursuing, or only if I said certain things?
I agree with DS, try to avoid that. It is a bit of pursuit behavior. Now if SHE initiates a conversation like that it's OK to listen. Just don't initiate yourself. When you initiate, stick to business.
