We have some "business" stuff to discuss, but if she wants to talk about how she's feeling, do I continue listen / validate / ask questions, or don't even engage in the feeling conversations?
Now let me ask..........who really wants to talks, you or WW.
Honestly, since WW moved out... there were maybe 2 moments where I felt a strong urge to initiate contact, but I held strong and just keep re-reading about NC.
The "business" stuff that we have to talk about is regarding a rental property with a tenant moving out end of the month. We had at one point discussed that as an option for her to move into instead, so we needed to clarify that before I list it again for rent. And season tickets that we share - which is turned into a F'ing custody discussion each time :P
She has texted me here and there a few times about nothing, which I have ignored. No phone calls.
The 2 times that we actually met up to talk about us, she initiated the meeting. First time, not knowing how the conversation would go, I proposed coffee shop thinking I would need to walk out. She was not comfortable discussing this in public, so we ended up doing it at home. It's been polite, no accusations, name calling or anything. She mostly just tells me how she is feeling, and I acknowledge and validate. I do politely remind her that there is still an AP situation at her work. Aside from that, I probably do chit chat a bit too much though, kind of letting her know what I have been up to in terms of GAL.
I actually get some anxiety prior to meeting and don't enjoy it, but I figure I do have to temp check her too. I mentally prepare myself for the conversation to go either way... D or R, and play out the discussions in my head so I don't get too surprised. I actually have the dissolution forms printed in my backpack.
and just keep re-reading about NC.