The information here is more like "how to survive a divorce" not how to repair a marriage. Almost every thing I've posted has been advice I was given by the old timers.
It is disheartening to get advice from people whose marriages didn't survive however I've come to realize that there is this vast space between repairing a marriage and divorce. It's called separation. Some of us get stuck here for a year or more. One foot on the courthouse steps and one foot in the land of happily ever after. Thing is that choice isn't ours to make. As a LBS I've admitted fully that I am the reason my WAH left. The one thing the old timers give me is hope that I can survive the separation even if my M doesn't make it and for that I am grateful.
Point taken. The online community is a bit different from the website, book, etc. where the slogan "save your marriage" is shown. I don't think the vast majority of people come here to learn how to survive divorce. I could be wrong.
