I was able to totally and completely reconciled with my wife
What do you think were the important change you made to get things back on track?
You got me thinking I might ask the wife tonight. I would say this....and it won't be a popular answer here...I went with my gut sometimes on how to approach thing.
I also was very clear that I was always there for her. As mother of my children, she deserved that.
Not sure why we would disagree with this, this is outstanding. As I've told other posters here, the advice I provide is general advice. There is no way I know as much about their sitch, themselves, or their WAS than they do. For instance, I posted here well over a year before I disclosed that I myself had had EAs. So the advice I had received up to that point was done without that valuable piece of information.
I don't think anyone here is trying to suggest that they are an expert, or know more than anyone else. We are simply trying to share our experience and what we learned. As Ready2Change and I have said before, during our sitches I was reading 5-8 books, or more a month.
So yes, LBSs should trust their gut. Though I will say that sometimes you have to be careful because in various states your gut can mislead you (denial, etc).
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
