I cheated, we survived, now my wife's cheating

[SteveLW]

I have seen a few articles that talked about when it progresses so quickly it is much more likely to end quickly.

Any thoughts and opinions about that?

In general it does seem like quickly progressing affairs do fizzle out sooner rather than later. That said, there are always exceptions to any rule. I can think of two examples from here, both a few years ago, where a WAW latched onto an affair partner pretty quickly, in one case the OM moved in with her and in the other case she moved in with him. Both relationships were still going strong over a year later and in both cases the LBS's quit posting so we don't know if they continued beyond that.

Also if the affair does fizzle out that doesn't necessarily mean she'll come running back to you. Often they will go in search of OM2, 3, 4, etc.

I'm not trying to kill your hopes, just point out that it's so hard to predict how any one situation will end up. I was 100% convinced my marriage would be saved and it wasn't. Others here I was completely convinced would NOT be saved, and they were. There's just no reliable benchmark or pattern. All you can do is focus on you!

This. I saw this with my W and her EA. Other man moved on fairly quickly. She was immediately on the hunt for OM #2. Sometimes it isn't about that particular person, but validation from someone else in general. Especially with WWs.