AS has repeatedly attacked me and he gets a pass? I have to defend myself. My concern is that there is a lot of bad advice going around here. A lot. The tone of this place has changed in the past 5 or so years. it's gone to a place where almost no LBS takes responsibility for their role in the marriage. Everyone makes wild speculations that aren't helpful to the situations. And they just call their WAS "crazy." They encourage people to quickly move (date, sleep with new partners, etc.) on instead of working to repair the marriage.
These people are not marriage experts and many post downright dangerous information. Much of the advice goes against the DB teachings. The mods here used to police that much more often, I guess it's more of a free for all now.
The information here is more like "how to survive a divorce" not how to repair a marriage. Almost every thing I've posted has been advice I was given by the old timers.
As a final note. I'm not better or smarter or some superman, but I was able to survive the BD. I was able to totally and completely reconciled with my wife and we just celebrated 21 years of marriage this month. (which is different than most here - again I'm not making a judgment on their marriage because I understand that each is different)
