So that is something like 3 years. But who knows right?
Right, no one knows. You could live another 50 years and I could die in an accident on the way home today. I've never been big on the "live every day like it's your last" concept, if I did I would sure not be sitting here at work, hahaha! Better to live assuming you'll be around a while and plan accordingly.
I made it about 3 years before enough was enough and I pushed the D through. It's hard to keep loving someone that doesn't love you back, I did it for a good long while but couldn't continue indefinitely. You do get to the point where you just don't have much feelings or emotions about it anymore. It's not that you quit caring or lose hope, it's that your priorities shift away from this person and onto other people and things. For me I knew when it was time, there weren't any doubts at all.
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Do we have a chance if I’m not trying at all? Or is that what gives us a chance?
There's always a chance. After BD, after S, after D, even after decades apart. No one knows the future.
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Do I actually care. I do love her. Prolly always will. Should I throw out an ILY or some sort of advance just to see if it blows up In my my face lol!! If it does then oh well.
I would have said no, but I see in a later post that you did and got no response. Not sure why you felt inclined to say that, if you want to temp check her then do it the right way- sit her down, tell her you are ready to move on, ask her if she feels the same and if she does then discuss where to go from there. But again, don't do this unless you are 100% sure that S and or D is what you are ready for.
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I am still willing to work on it. Maybe I am rushing things a touch. But there are really not much for feelings left from me. I guess we will see how it goes
You seem like you are all over the place. You don't have feelings, but you do love her. You're done, but you want to say ILY and see what her reaction is. You want to BD her but you're afraid you're not doing enough. So give yourself more time.
