Slow and Steady

[Jac12]

LH - I realize that I played a part to cause this, but it's a small part. I've been open and honest with her with any mistakes I have made and I've worked hard to fix them. This is a pattern in her life though...as soon as she gets bored she moves on (cars, jobs, relationships, etc.). She left her child and was ok seeing him 1.5 days a week for the last 4 months.

I have no intention of keeping my son away from her. I know he needs his mother in his life but I also don't want her dumping him off with family or a baby sitter all the time so she can go out with her friends. Im not talking in the evening when he goes to bed, I mean during the day too.

I would like to know she is working on herself (actually seeing the psychiatrist she was referred to, going to counseling). That would make be feel better but as of now she's done zero self reflection on her part. She's now the victim in this despite that fact that her actions led to me being the primary caregiver.

Deja - Thank you for your input as well. My son is 2.5 years old so in my mind he needs someone who will be there for him. In all ways. I've been that person and she hasn't - and she's aware that she hasn't been a good mom. I would feel better about that if I knew she was the mom she used to be but even then it would be difficult of course.