Slow and Steady

[Jac12]

I don't look forward to the nights my W is with our son. She stays at my house with him (convenience and easier for son) after daycare until I come home.

Tonight she put him to bed and came downstairs. She was taking her sweet time which doesn't happen much. She noticed a doctors form for an ultrasound I need to have (nothing major) and asked if I was doing ok. I just said yes I'm doing great.

I could tell she was sad though so I asked:

Me: How about you, are you doing ok? You seem a bit down
W: I'm just sad about son (gets teary)
Me: Why is that?
W: I'm sad that I don't get to see him that much.
Me: I understand how you feel.
W: I don't think you do (starts to get a little mad).
Me: Why is that? I think I understand, this is tough for all of us.
W: I just don't think you do.

After that she packed up her food she made and left without saying much else. Normally I would press her to talk and ask her not to drive home upset. This time I just said "I'm sorry you feel upset". She left after that.

She is likely expecting me to text her to check in. I won'd do that. Her feelings are not my responsibility. I feel like I was calm and kind and left the door open for her to communicate more if she chose.

All her crying just feels so manipulative. I think she even peaked up once to see my reaction. I have a feeling she thinks I love her so much that I won't fight for as much custody as I can. AS mentioned before, I have a good case for primary caregiver or full custody so it's quite likely I'll end up with more that 50/50.

How did I handle this?