Most of the "experts" here are divorced. There was no divorce busting at all.
As a man, I can explain how to use a tampon, even though I don't personally use them.
Same things as a divorced man. I went though a tremendous period of personal growth when I was bomb dropped. I believe the other divorced men here did the same. I joined this forum about 10 years ago. I have seen what works and what does not. I did not bust my divorce, but that was out of my control. Others have. What worked for them? Making positive changes to the way they interacted with their spouse. I do not recall anyone saving their marriage until the third party was out of the picture. There was a huge range of recommendations on how to get the third party out of the picture ranging from let it run its course to take drastic actions. I believe it is initially best to get as many options on the table, and then make an educated decision on which one works best for each individual.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
