I said "No our S2 will never be a male stripper, and that its shameful." She obviously didn't find it funny even in my over exaggerated tonality to let her know I was kidding. Ok...Then I notice XW puts on her robotic face again in front of me. Doing the gray rock thing again.
So your intent was to be silly, but your message didn't have the desired impact. If I were to wager a guess, something in that message triggered her, and the grey rock method is a means to protect herself because she felt hurt in that moment. It must feel frustrating that your once wife feels the need to protect herself. If you can intuit the trigger (e.g., AnotherStander believes she interpreted disapproval), you could avoid hitting it again. You don't have to try to avoid pushing her buttons, but it could make future interactions smoother.
