AS. I can promise you that I’m not trying to get a response out of her. If she wants to D than fine. I really am OK with it. Your “having sex with OM” question you posed to me a couple months ago? If I saw that it would phase me zero. I mean that. I would literally be like “holy smokes! They are doing that THERE?!!? And then I would kick her out of the bedroom and sleep like a baby. Zero emotional response from me.
She has offered little to no support in the way of my fresh diagnosis.
No from what you've described she's been pretty cold and heartless about it. I'm curious if you think she's hanging around with the hope of grabbing your life insurance and/ or estate?
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She really has the ultimate cake eating experience. She gets to come home, vent about her day, enjoy my income. Enjoy the platonic aspects of my company without offering any intimacy. It’s very one sided
My XW moved out pretty quick after BD so I don't know what this is like, but it sounds like absolute hell based on what you and others have described.
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I have no idea how much time I have. Sounds like a few years talking to doc. I’m not sure if I want to spend it all in limbo.
The truth of it is your WAS has shown no signs of turning around. Will she if you give it enough time? Maybe, maybe not. But it will probably be a year or even years before you know. It's your life and your choice, but if it were me then I would file for D now and never look back at her and make the most of the time I had left whether that is with someone else, or just my loved ones. If you only have years left then the BEST time you have left is happening now, why waste it on someone who doesn't love you or even care enough about you to show even basic interest in what you're going through.
