One way to make changes: Your emotions are there to help guide your changes. Most people blame external things rather than self reflect. Next time you get frustrated with anybody, recognize that you are frustrated, Internally forgive them, shift into compassionate listening mode, and focus hard on understanding the other person.
I sound like a hypocrite when I give advice only because I can't make this stick (yet).
My WAH left because of me. When I'm frustrated sometimes I can find compassion for WAH. He wants to be happy and because I love him I imagine the peace he has knowing he had the courage to make this very difficult decision. I imagine all the pain I caused him and I picture him smiling because it's over. I imagine the relief he must feel. He can do whatever he wants without repercussions. He's free from pretending and now can live an authentic life. He now has hope for a better future. I imagine the support he's getting from his friends and imagine him being able to breathe and relax. He can have hobbies, sleep as late as he wants, have more money, go out with the guys, date women who aren't mentally ill (lol) he's in control of his life now. No more walking on eggshells. He's free.
I can't do this TODAY but I can do it sometimes. lol
I found it's so much easier to be detached, rationale and clear thinking with dealing with other people's situations. It's hardly hypocritical, it's being human.
