Glad you are still updating. Sounds like you are in a hard spot. It’s hard to rally momentum when things fall into the lull of a regular pattern, and it’s not bad but it’s not particularly good either. Do you ever follow Esther Perel? She has a lot of great materials on marriage and is the expert on infidelity. You can even find gold nuggets on YouTube. She currently has a web course to rebuild intimacy. She believes that most of us will have several Ms in our lifetime and for some of us it will be with the same person. It sounds like you and your W need to figure out how to build this next relationship together. I think in order to do that, there may need to be some remorse and atonement for past actions. Have you said this to her? Because you can’t go forward if you are building resentment for past hurts.
Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
