Thanks guys. I’m sure about being sure. Does that make sense? I don’t think I’m interested in staying in the friend zone for 2 years. Since we don’t like our rental we were gonna start looking for a new place in January. So the are we living together or not thing has to happen by then.
When I look at her. Most of the attraction is gone. I just see the person who stopped loving me. And that’s it. I have no doubt the attraction when come back with a quickness if she put forth even the smallest effort. But otherwise. I’m tired. I’m just really tired. I enjoy being by myself more than with her. I enjoy being with my son. AS once asked me what I would do if I looked out the window and she was banging some guy. With abc being some sort of confrontation and d being “eh”. It would definitely be “eh” now. No questions asked. Is this the goal of DBing. Steve 85 always said everybody comes here looking to save their marriage. They end of saving themselves. I’m more comfortable than I have ever been by myself. Several months ago. She was out with a friend until 1 am. I couldn’t sleep. Fretting if she was cheating (she wasn’t). She did this again last weekend. I was out like a light at midnight. Went out with some friends. I think I really could care less what time she gets home
You guys told me to take a break from the forums. I did that. For a good while. I feel much better on my return
I think I just need some direction. Because I think much longer of this. I will never want her back at all
