Divorce because I betrayed her trust - THREAD 4

[DaB35]

BluWave, I see it as harmless and not condescending in any way.

In every case, I read this to mean "<this is whatever text the S concerned is saying. It can be on any topic and they could talk about anything, related or not to what you need advice on>"

It's not nagging, it's more like "this is my bit of the conversation." It doesn't actually matter what they say, because that's not what we're seeking advice for. And it applies to whether that S is male or female.

Essentially it's whatever they say before the crucial bit - what YOU respond with. And your own response is MUCH shorter. Not rude, just perfunct.

It took me about 2-3 months to get the hang of SHORT reponses. Again, not rude, just to the point and validating when necessary. You can't - and shouldn't - validate every single thing in every text/email they send you. That would be odd. Choose the obvious moments.