I should clarify that when I "knee jerked" to her proposing moving back in, it was in a negative way to the idea of her moving back in. I said I don't think we are ready, and that without more clarification and thought, we could easily fall back into the same patterns as before, and I'm not okay with that chaos.
What should I do if WW brings up moving back in and working on MR again? Do we then discuss conditions and boundaries? I just don't another relapse. I do detect inconsistencies in her statements and she still works with AP. I honestly think that she's still in her fog, and just trying to alleviate the pain of losing her stable connection at home, but once back home, she might then focus on her desire for the affair again.
Is NC more or less effective while she is in the home vs living outside the home?
How does one go from NC to R? If we do get to that point, do we work on it while living separately to start?
