It's OK to respond if she reaches out, but try to stick to business. No chatty stuff. Try not to initiate unless it's something urgent. If she's doing a lot of "hey how are you" and you're not replying and she asks why, just tell her you need time and space to think about things.
Well, I think she reached out to talk about business and likely her current emotions. At least that was the case last time. We handled most of the beginning of month "business" stuff over text, so looking at the calendar, there's not a lot of urgency, unless we wanted to discuss "business" long term in limbo. I guess I will just listen and validate on the emotional part.
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Some people say ignore everything 30+ days then reach out / indefinitely until they clearly state they want to R? Not that I'm expecting her to R right now, but I doubt that will be communicated over text or e-mail?
I've never heard that, I'm assuming you read that somewhere else. 30 days isn't long enough for a WAS to consider reconciling. More like 10 times that. Or more. This requires abundant patience!
Yeah, the 30+ day stuff is mostly if you Google / YouTube "No Contact Rule", but those seem to be for people who broke up dating. Probably a lot less baggage to work thru than a marriage
