Confused and Lost

[KristinG]

Yeah I've definitely made the mistakes of trying to set personal boundaries and caving in on sticking to them throughout this whole process. I don't know if it's a good thing or bad thing, but we have agreed not to be intimate since July. WW said we have always connected great in the bedroom (that's not an issue) and that she wants to make sure that if/when we become intimate again that her heart is in it. I agreed as I do not want to be sleeping with anyone that doesn't have their heart in it. 44 you're right. I firmly believe she would feel the loss almost immediately and this entire week has proven that. I have been GALing, been distant in our convos, and made myself somewhat unavailable and she has been temp checking quite often.

I've been trying to think of things I need to do for myself in order to 180. I guess a big part of it is being a fixer. I think the only problem we ever really had was that I am wayyy too much of a care taker and a giver. I spoiled the absolute snot out of ww prior to the affair (and even after if I'm honest). I worked hard to get a great career, pay all the bills, cook, buy anything/do anything we want to do. I just find myself really blessed because I'm so fortunate that money has not been an issue, but I also gave her way to much and it ended up making her feel like she can't provide. She has told me that one of the only things she feels like was missing was her ability to provide and take care of me. She said that she felt needed in her R with the OW and that she wants to feel that way with me. I'm trying to just lay low and let her pursue.