I got home and W was giving me silent treatment before telling me to “never talk to her parents again.”
So typical.
They will attempt to control everything. And most things are absolutes and negative. Like - never talk again. Emotionally driven.
Well done not getting drawn in, and trying to explain or rationalize it. She won’t listen, and really is unable to at the moment.
After she calms down, you could apologize. Just own that you answered some questions from her parents. You didn’t realize her parents would lay into her, and you are sorry she feels hurt.
If you two are in MC, you should make peace on this. Just straight foreword, nothing over the top. Build a bit of trust for yourself within her. Show her you are a safe place and she doesn’t need to worry about you telling on her. Her trauma’s origin is most likely with a parent or parents. Family or someone in a position of authority over her as a child.
It’s ok. I would probably ease up on telling her parents about her though.
Do more of what works and less of what doesn’t.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
