Confused and Lost

[KristinG]

I've told her that as well. Months ago, I basically said "I don't want this other person in my life. You are an adult and I cannot make you cut contact but I will not be a part of your life as long as she is in it because that puts her directly involved in my life as well and it's unhealthy for my emotional well being." The problem with that boundary though is that I am too weak to walk away completely. SoTorn thanks for so much input. I read about your sitch earlier on another forum and it really seems like you have a super strong sense of character! I am making some progress detaching and am at least feeling a little more emotionally stable, although I am worried it's just part of another cycle. My whole situation feels so stupid and really makes me want to smack her in the face with a shovel and say "wake up dummy! you obviously still love me!" but I know that I can't and that nothing I do will change any decisions she is making. I'm really finding strength from reading others experiences and all the support on DB.