You said “I want to first try to figure out a game plan to get her back and then 2nd find what makes me happy”
You have got those backward my friend. There is no “plan” that will work to get her back
The “let her go to get her back” is the only thing that has a chance of truly working. But you can’t fake it. If you do, she will know and it won’t work.
It has to be genuine let her go. A wise person on here once said “your never more attractive than when your walking away”. But here’s the catch. You can’t walk away, and then turn and look over your shoulder. She HAS to feel herself loosing you. Genuinely loosing you. And you have to be totally ok with that. Then and only then will you have a shot
Focus on yourself. What would put a smile on your face right now that has nothing to do with her. Go do that.
Focus on your kids.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
